I swear that I have a sign on my forehead that says, “Sucker”. Last month, I had to end a 19 year friendship because of more lies and manipulation. This one hit me out of no where and the worst part is, she was there for all the shit that went down with my mom. She helped me through that rough time and could not believe that anyone could do that to another person. Not even a year later, she managed to do the same thing. I will warn you this one is going to sound crazy and very over the top but it is real as real can be and I really feel stupid for believing this and allowing this to go on for so long. So here it goes, again:
I met, who I looked at like a second mother to me, Linda when I was three months pregnant with my daughter in 1998. She was my Lamaze coach, she was at every family function and I was at every one of hers, she was at most of my daughter’s school functions, she was involved in every detail of planning my wedding, I paid for her “mother of the bride” dress and included her in the “mother’s” flowers. Like I said, I looked at her like a second mother.
She used to tell me that I was her sane child. She had six kids of her own and most with their own problems. Some had problems with drugs, others alcohol, some both. Most stole from her and she was constantly robbing from Peter to save Paul. I would always try to help her by making phone calls to help set up payment arrangements or extending due dates, whatever I could do. She would come here and we would have our movie days, quiet time without all the kids and grand kids running around. It was a solid relationship, or so I thought.
Last September, we got together at my place for a normal movie day. Nothing was special about this day, it was a day like any other. She had a large white bag with her and she told me that she wanted to tell me something but I had to keep it a secret. The only people I could tell were my husband and daughter. I was a bit worried because this was very unlike her but I agreed. I had no idea that what she was going to tell me would eventually destroy our relationship.
She pulls out her bag and the stuff in it and tells me that her adoptive mother’s sister’s son, her cousin, is pretty famous. She asks again for my word that this will stay between us and me, my husband and my daughter. I agree but I am confused and baffled. I have known this woman, for what seems like forever and I am just learning this, I thought I knew everything about her but I allow her to continue. She hands me a concert program for the Eagles when they played at the PPL center here in the Valley the year prior. It is signed by the band mates and one of them says, “hey cuz”. Glenn Frey, she tells me, is her cousin! I am floored! I have always loved the Eagles and I just can’t believe this! I say to her, get out here you are kidding me! She assures me this is real and that there is more.
Now, most people know that Glenn Frey and Don Henley were like brothers, fighting and all. She tells me that she had been talking to Glenn about me and my family and some of things that we had been through, including my husband adopting my daughter. She said that Glenn wanted to discuss this with Don and possibly start a pen pal relationship with us! Again, I am floored! Who wouldn’t be?
So, about a month goes by and we start getting letters from Glenn, Glenn’s wife, Cindy, Don Henley and his wife, Sharon. Glenn had surgery in October and was recovering so she told me that timing was perfect for the writing. It was like an instant bond between us. Then my daughter starts getting letters as well from all of them, including Don’s daughter, Kate. We were told we could ask them any questions we wanted to, off the record. We came up with over 50 questions and they were answered within two weeks.
My daughter asked if she could make them some jewelry and they said of course. My daughter spent her own money to pick out things to make them something nice. She made things for the guys and their wives and Linda shipped it to them. Keep in mind, everything went through Linda as they did not want us to have their address which we completely understood. We got thank you letters from them all and Glenn said that his mother was jealous that she didn’t get one. His response was, “Hey, it’s who you know” which made my daughter laugh. So, Linda was to go to Walden Woods where Glenn and Cindy were to renew their vows for their 25 wedding anniversary on January 9, 2016. My daughter made Glenn’s mother a pair of earrings for Linda to take with her and give to her when she saw her there.
Now I asked Linda about flight info because I worry A LOT about people flying. She did not have any saying that Glenn brother, who lives in the area, had all of that and was picking her up and they were flying out of philly. I looked and there were no flights with the info that she gave me. Again, I just shrugged it off thinking it is a world I know nothing about. When Linda came back, she gave Taylor a hand written thank you card from Glenn’s mother, Nellie, thanking my daughter for the earrings. I thought is was so nice. There were many other letters that came back with her from the guys from band. One of them said they were adopting my daughter as their band mascot. She was thrilled! We really felt this bond and were just in awe. How could these people feel this way about us? We are nobody’s.
Then, nine days later, I happen to be scrolling through facebook and see five notifications at the same time that broke our hearts. Glenn Frey died. (Keeping in mind that we just suffered four losses back to back from August to October that we were still trying to deal with). I know it sounds silly never meeting the guy but all these letters and things that were said in these letters, we felt a bond there and it was gone. I called Linda after I composed myself because I wasn’t sure if they would think to call a cousin in the chaos. She came to the house right away. My daughter was so upset, she damn near knocked Linda over when she came through door when she went to hug her, she (my daughter) was so upset.
Linda asked me to help her type up a eulogy for the funeral that was going to take place on the 22nd and 23rd in Detroit where Glenn grew up. I, of course, helped her. Her and his brother were flying out of our local airport on the 21st and I asked for the info and only got that the flight was leaving around 8pm. I looked at the airport site and it showed no flights leaving or coming in at all after 6pm. Nothing at all. I found that strange but thought why would she lie to me and let it go.
She came home and brought us a white rose from the service that Cindy wanted us to have. We continued to stay in contact with Cindy, Don, Sharon and Kate through Linda only. Linda asked me if I could see what people were saying about her late cousin on line. There were websites out there of celebrities reactions to Glenn’s passing and I got all the info for her. This is where things starting to take a turn in a very different direction.
Bob Seager and Irving Azoff (the Eagles manager) both said that Glenn was in a coma since his surgery in October and that they had the best specialists working on him trying to get him better and keep him alive. Things were not adding up. How can I have letters from someone who was in a coma? This is not possible. On top of many other things that she told us that were not adding up either. One of them being that Don’s “daughter” Kate is adopted and biologically Elton John’s. So, I called her out and gave her an opportunity to tell me the truth in February. Here is the email that I sent:
Hello. I am not exactly sure how to say what I need to say so I am going to try to put my words together as best as I can. As you know, I am an avid researcher and I am always on the computer scanning for different things, hobbies, interests, people, etc. I have also voiced to you how hard it is for me to believe that we have been talking to such iconic people for the last few months. Over the last few months, I have read the letters, watched the interviews, listened to the stories with amazement and pride. However, when I look things up and really think about things, it doesn’t add up. I have known you for almost 20 years and I love you like family and I have no idea why you would make something like this up but things are not adding up. I know you are asking yourself what doesn’t add up and what am I questioning. Here are just a few things that I have questioned: The turn around time on the replies for the letters, I give you a letter on a certain day and I have replies within 3-5 days. When I send things to Dave’s mom in TN it takes 3-5 days just to get there if not longer. I have found, through online interviews, that Don has three biological children two girls and a boy and he was there for each birth. I showed you a picture of Annabell and asked you who she was and you said you did not know, however that is one of Don’s daughters. On the board of directors at Walden Woods there is no Kate listed. When you went to Walden and to Detroit, you told me that you were flying out of ABE direct. There were no flights leaving at the time that you said that you guys were leaving. No flights at all after 6pm out of ABE on those days. Multiple websites show that Glenn and Cindy’s anniversary was actually in August, not January. Those sites also show that his first wife’s name was Janie not Linda. I am not sure why he would call Cindy Janie if that was his first wife’s name. I would not be comfortable with that. And the fact that Bob and Irv both have stated on multiple reputable websites that Glenn never made it out of surgery in New York. Robert Lamm has been married four times but none of his wives were named Cathy. I am at a loss. I believe, however, that Glenn was a part of your family. You have the signed copies of things and family pictures and I don’t question that. I question the stories and the contact between them. I am sure that the road was filled with good intentions to pull my daughter and I out of a hole and give us something to look forward to and I appreciate that. Maybe things just got out of hand. I really don’t know. I just really need the truth without doubt. I can’t go on thinking that someone that I hold so close has lied to me and my daughter. I know that I truly do love you and and my feelings didn’t change when you told me all this. I just need the truth, please. Maybe I can try to move past this. I am not sure. I will wait to hear from you. T**** is having problems with her school computer, so she has been using this one throughout the day and my pain levels and headaches have been bad over the last few days. If you reply or call and I don’t get back to you right away it is because I am either not doing well, laying down or don’t physically have the computer or phone with me. I hope you can understand my confusion.
This was her reply:
I have not lied to you about Glenn. As for the letters, we have used UPS or FedX. As for flights, those were put together by someone else, so you probably wont find them. When did all this start occurring? What would be my reason for the deception? I don’t have a special agenda for hurting either of you. I cannot answer for other people’s actions, so I don’t feel that anything I say will make this any better. Sure, I could defend myself, but would it really make things any better? I did not lie to either of you. My intentions were to make both of you happy, but if you truly feel I deceived you, I am sorry. I merely stated facts that I was given by the people who made them. Again to try to explain would probably not help, but I swear to you the letters you received from both Glenn and Cindy are real, not fake. Thank you for believing something, but I really don’t know what to say. I am sorry for any confusion, and would appreciate us getting over this. Can we?
I then received a very direct letter from Cindy and an understanding letter Don and Sharon spelling out the details on what happened the day the Glenn passed away and how the media can get away with saying whatever they wanted. They all said that they really wanted the relationship to continue and I really thought that maybe it was true. Hell, I wanted to believe it was true because if it wasn’t it would mean that this life long friend lied and made all this up for nothing. So we continued to write and went along like everything was fine but something was still not sitting right with me.
I believe it was in March or April that a former bandmate, Randy Meiser, made the news. His wife was killed in a freak accident. I was told that Randy’s wife was Cindy’s sister and first thought was OMG poor Cindy first Glenn now her sister. Linda said no this was just some other woman that he was with after her. Again nothing I found was adding up to what she was telling me.
Well on my birthday, May 3rd, Linda came over and gave me her gift, a card and a Bon Jovi CD. Then she had something for me from Don, Cindy and Sharon. A card and a box. In this box were two signed copies of Don’s new album Cass County (one for Dave and I and one for our daughter) each with a hand written note in them and then an envelope with tickets to his concert this August at Musikfest! I damn near died! I was so excited!!!!! Don Henley thought enough about me to get me tickets to his show. Then I read the letter with them that made me think, he apologized that the tickets could not be closer but that is all the venue could give him. I have never heard of such a thing before in my life. Now I was thrilled with the tickets just the thought alone but I already had doubt and this just made the doubt worse.
I was in the middle of trying to help Linda save her home by working with her mortgage company by trying to get her a remod so I had her financials here at my house. I had the tickets here and where they were purchased and I have a legal brain. I called the placed where the tickets were purchased, asked when and who purchased them and they told me that Linda purchased them on site with cash. The bank record confirmed an ATM cash withdraw on the same day. My heart broke. Then I starting digging hard on the internet about everything she told me about the guys or anything that was in the letters.
I will not get into everything because it would take me hours to write it all down but remember when I said that my daughter got a hand written thank you card from Glenn’s mother, Nellie, for the jewelry? Well, on top of all the other things that weren’t true like Don not having biological children, Randy Meisner and Don Felder being Glenn’s brother in laws, the bands doctor being a lady named Cathee who was Robert Lamm (lead singer of Chicago) wife, Don’s mother being so sweet at the vow renewal and many, many more stories…..Let me touch base on these first before I hit the one that proved that none of the communications were true from the beginning. Don does have three biological children two girls and a boy there are pictures of him with his wife while she is pregnant out there on the web. No links between Cindy and Randy’s late wife. Don Felder hasn’t been married in a very long time. Robert Lamm has been married four times and never to a Cathee and never to a doctor. Don Henley’s mother passed away a few years ago. Now, on to the nail in the coffin. Nellie Frey, Glenn’s mother who was jealous of the jewelry and send my daughter a thank you card died years ago! I could not believe it!!!!
I sent Linda a letter, along with all her belongings that I had here because of the remod that I was helping her with. I confirmed that she got this letter. The letter detailed all the misinformation and lies that she told us and me begging for answers. The hurt is caused us and not understanding why she would do this to us. She knew everything that we had been through and to allow this to continue is crazy and heartless. She said that she got everything and that I still had a book of hers. My husband dropped off the book and she told him that I should expect a letter from her in the mail soon. I received the letter the next day saying that she is sorry and there is no reason on why she did this that would make sense. We have no answers. However, she told her kids, that I haven’t been close to in years, that I am crazy because they changed my meds again and she doesn’t want them talking to me.
I really don’t get it. Almost 20 years out the window for no reason what so ever. We had such a great relationship. She knew everything about me and I thought I did about her. We shared everything in each other’s lives. There was no reason for this at all. Why cause this hurt. I am finding myself finding it so hard to trust anyone anymore. First my own mother and now this. You allow someone in your life for so long and they betray not only you but your family without any explanation. You are left wondering why and that is an awful thing to be left with. No reason as to why just gone! Done! Over! Lied! Shit on you! Why? Who knows. I haven’t even completely gotten over what my mother has done to us and the loss that we suffered last year and now this with more unanswered questions. I don’t want all this pain and mistrust to change me but I don’t know how not to let it.
I have been trying to sweep this under the rug for over a month now and it keeps rearing its ugly head. Not because she is doing anything but because my mind won’t let any of the hurt from my mother, to the loss of my nana, my pop, my aunts, to this alone. It is like this was the straw that broke me. How sad is that? I try to keep telling myself that I have no control over the way others act and I know that I don’t but how did I not see this? How did I allow this to happen again? My daughter’s biological father, my mother, now Linda. All people I allowed to get close to destroy me and my family. How do I not take the blame for that? How do I not allow that to happen again when I don’t know how it happened in the first place? I really need to find this magnet that is somewhere in my body that attracts the crazies and have it removed because I really don’t know if I can handle another heart break like this. Thank you all for listening and who knows maybe one day there will be a book or a lifetime movie of this life of mine because you really can’t make this shit up!!!!! Until then, I must just keep on keepin’ on, you all do the same! Until next time.
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I have been away for awhile because of my health issues but I am starting to come back and trying to get back to the way things used to be. In the last few months my symptoms got worse. I starting getting this intense pain on the top left side of my head that felt like there was a gnome hitting my head with an ice pick and these would cause me to go into one of my “episodes”.(being able to hear and sometimes see what was going on around me but completely unable to respond or move for what seemed like hours but only lasted a few minutes at a time) After a few months of these new problems, my husband and I talked to my doctor and they did an MRI. We discovered that I have an arachnoid cyst on my brain but that was not the cause of my problems. About a week later, things got worse. The pain became more severe and more frequent. My husband called my doctor and he was told to call the ambulance because they were not sure if I was having a stroke or not. After three days in the hospital and more tests, they found out that I have stabbing headaches and non epileptic seizures. I have also had migraines but I guess they decided to evolve. There is no cure for either of these new diagnoses but they put me on a preventive medication for the stabbing headaches that can also help with the fibro pain and depression, it is called Nortryptiline. It is a step up drug that you start by taking one a day for a week, two a day for a week, then three a day. It was hell for a little bit with the mood swings and it seemed like the depression was getting worse for the first few weeks. In the past couple of days my depression has been getting better and, though I still get the stabbing headaches, seizures and migraines, they are not as frequent or severe. So, it does seem to be working. I am looking at starting my support group back up and starting to write on my blog more often again. I need to get my life back and stop letting my body decide what I am capable of that day. While I know that I need to rest and listen to the warning signs that my body is giving me, I will not allow it to take away what little social life I have left. I am crawling out of that dark hole and starting to see the light. I hope that you all will go through this journey with me and I am sorry that I disappeared for so long.
The last few months have been brutal, to say the least. While I am still very grateful for the people that I have in my life, we went through a tremendous amount of loss of the last couple months. In August, I lost my grandfather and a friend two days apart from each other. It was so hard to process that, at the ripe age of 35, I have no more grandparents. None. It is a like a hole in my heart that can never be filled. Then, my husband and I celebrated our one year anniversary on October 25th. We went away for a couple of days and upon our return (within 30 minutes of getting home), we learned that two of my aunts were most likely not going to make it through the night. I am still grateful that they were in the same nursing facility so that we could see them both at the same time. My one Aunt Helen has been battling so many different things over the last few years, cancer, COPD, chronic bronchitis, chronic pneumonia and just getting up there in age, that we have received many calls like this before and she always pulled through. She was a fighter and she would joke saying that “That Devil isn’t getting me yet! I am not done harassing people yet!” This time wasn’t the same. She was already in a coma like state when we got there. She was struggling to breathe and had a fever but looked like she was sleeping. No matter how much I talked to her, there was no response. It ripped my heart out. This woman who was so full of life and spunk was lying there lifeless. I just wanted to hear her pick on someone so bad. Then down the hall, is my Aunt Edie. She was recently diagnosed with cancer earlier this year. She did have some other health problems as well. She was in and out of hospitals, surgeries and ICU for a few months before going into the nursing facility. There were days that she was happy and just loving life and others that she felt like giving up. I can’t say that I blame her on the last part. I watched both of them go from free spirited women to almost lifeless. And there was nothing I could do but sit by and watch. When I got to see my Aunt Edie she was already unreachable. She was in a catatonic state. (I have never seen anyone like that before) Her eyes were open and not blinking at all. She had the infamous “death gargle” that people talk about and at times it seemed like she was trying to communicate with us. Moving her hand or sounding like she was trying to speak. We had to leave because my husband was to go into work later that night and he needed to get some rest. At around 7pm that night I got the call that my aunt Helen passed away and about two hours later, the same call saying that my aunt Edie had passed as well. How do you process this? How do you go from having a nice stress free getaway to two substantial losses within two hours of each other? I can’t call is shock but I really think my brain has just shut down. It can’t process all these losses, so there are days that I act like it doesn’t exist. Then there are times where I will see something that reminds me of one of them and my mind bounces to the other three at the same time and I shut down again. I am honestly afraid of starting to cry because I really feel that I will not be able to stop. This is normally my favorite time of year. Getting together with family and friends, decorating for Christmas and reflecting back on another year. This year things are different. Empty chairs, old photographs, Christmas decorations are constant reminders of those that are no longer with us. While, again, I am grateful for all that we have, how do you begin to process all the loss? I eventually have to deal with all the losses but how? Do I just shut down for a couple days and do nothing but cry? Do I try to just get by and deal with the memories as the come up? I am so lost that I don’t have the answers. I just know that there is a huge hole in my heart this holiday season that I don’t think can ever be filled. Just gotta keep on keepin’ on I guess. Not even sure what that means anymore. So in closure, please tell those who are close to you how much you love them everyday and never take them for granted. You never know when they won’t be with us anymore. Wear your heart on your sleeve and be honest with all. Let people in, let them see the real you and allow yourself to see them. We only have one shot at this life and no one makes it out alive so live it to the fullest.
I think I have finally come to peace with everything regarding my mother. It is even hard for me to call her that anymore. The past few weeks have been trying but the last few days have been an major eye opener. I have decided I am done fighting. I am done allowing her to control my emotions and putting an emotional strain on my family. She has made her choices and she has to live with them. I am surprisingly very ok with all of this. A few months ago I would have been an emotional wreck, but now I am just happy to get things back to normal. I know that her behavior will continue but I have learned that the only power she has is the power that I give her. I choose not to allow her to have that power anymore. I choose to take back my life and stop worrying about what she is going to do. Things will now be handled like a legal matter. Very straight and to the point without the emotion that goes into it. It is amazing the weight that has been lifted from my shoulders. I really can’t describe the peace that I feel within regarding my decision to not let her get to me anymore. This has been one hell of a roller coaster ride of emotion but it is time to get off and start really appreciating what I have right in front of me. I have an amazing daughter who is so loving and smart, a husband who would do anything for us and does, a family that has my back and supports every decision that I make and a group of friends that I wouldn’t trade for the world. We all struggle with different things and the negative tends to drown out all the positive things that are right in front of our faces. Find those things. A nice breezy day, some quiet time alone, a great day with friends, quality time with family or a hot bubble bath. We don’t know if we will be here tomorrow so stop focusing on what others do and say to try to bring you down. Believe in yourself, be true to yourself. We all have that control over our lives, we just need to dig deep to find it. I really hope this feeling stays and I can stay strong and at peace. Thank you all for listening and your words of encouragement. My journey is long from over but I hope that some of this might help someone else who is going through the same thing. Know that you will be ok. Just keep on keepin on!!!!!
We had a few weeks of peace and quiet. However, we all know how this book goes. I really thought it was over and that my mother was actually getting it and listening to me and my daughters wishes. I really thought we could begin to have peace again. Well, earlier this week I was proved wrong yet again. My daughter was checking her email and we found an email from my mother saying that she misses and loves my daughter and she was so glad to see that my daughter had a great time in Italy. Now, being that my daughter has blocked my mother from facebook and her phone and my mother blocked my daughter from her phone and email, we wondered how she could know that she had such a great time. My daughter did respond to her and say that she wanted to know how she knew and why she couldn’t answer an email that my daughter sent her about a month ago but now because my mother wants to talk to my daughter she unblocked the email. In the course of about 8 emails back and forth between my daughter and my mother, my daughter wanted answers. She wanted to know how she knew, she wanted to know why my mother blocked her from the email, she wanted to know why she never answered the email that my daughter sent her about her feelings with everything that has happened. At first my mother denied ever blocking my daughter from her email, until my daughter forwarded the message that showed that the email could not go through to her because email was blocked. Then my mother said she was sorry she blocked her. Then my mother claimed to have never gotten the email/text from my daughter, until my daughter pointed out that she sent it from a phone number that was associated with her kindle because my mother blocked every other way to contact her. Then the response was, oh I did get that email/text but I felt that I didn’t have anything to say so I did not respond. So my daughter put together another email and sent it off to my mother about all the hurtful things that my mother has done and said to my daughter. My daughter was really venting and putting the facts in the email about what hurt her and about how she felt about everything that was done and she ended by saying no more contact because my mother is refusing to talk about the past and work through the issues. My daughter wanted to try to mend the relationship, but in order to do that you need to work through the issues and that requires talking about them and trying to make sense of it all. My mother’s response to my 16 year daughter after reading her heartfelt email pretty much begging her for an apology to to try to work through these issues…….”I have one more question for you and I promise no more contact……Do you love me at all?” Who does this to their flesh and blood? I have posted the series of emails so that maybe someone can give me feedback on what you all see. I did take over at the end because my daughter was so hurt by all the avoidance of the issues and lack of responsibility. The sad part is, all my daughter wanted was an apology and to try to work things out. My mother can’t even fess up to her responsibilities. It is just so sad. Please remember, this is something that I have had to learn and that I tell my daughter on a regular basis, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! If you are dealing with a narcissistic person know that it is not you that is the problem. IT IS THEM! You cannot change them, you cannot get them to see what they have done wrong. In their eyes they are the victim and everyone is out to get them. Please stay strong and keep doing what is best for you. The hurt will fade in time but you will be able to see the true colors that allow you to know that it is nothing that you said or did to deserve this type of behavior. You are worth something, you are a special person and you deserve love.
Here are the emails back and forth:
Delivery to the following recipient has been rejected:
It has been almost 7 months since I have tried to cut ties with my mother and the drama still continues. I have asked her to stop ALL contact and stop dropping by my house for an assortment of reasons. She started by coming here to pick up her friend who lives with us. When her friend told her that she couldn’t come here anymore, she starts dropping off family history items on my back porch in the short amount of time that I was gone. I took this for about three weeks after she stopped coming here to pick up her friend until I emailed her saying that, as much as I appreciate the family history items she needs to respect my boundaries of not coming to the house anymore. She found that opportunity to respond to my email disclaiming any responsibility for any of her actions. Now today I get two emails claiming that she knows who I spoke to in the family regarding her allegations of child abuse when she was younger and that she is disgusted and ashamed of me. Here is the first email I got today:
Just found out who it is you believe over me… I am thoroughly disgusted and ashamed of you!!! You have killed any chance of any kind of relationship we may have been able to salvage.
Then, six minutes later (I did not even see the first one yet and did not respond to either of them) I get this one:
To think you would believe her over me is unimaginable. You are a hippocit!!!!!
I don’t understand her lack of responsibility. I have been asking for no contact for months because of her actions and now I am told that I killed any chance of any kind of relationship with her!!!!! Why? Because I tried to validate all the lies I was told. Now mind you, she never says who “her” is. Is she trying to bait me for my source, did she find out third hand? Most importantly do I care that she found out? No, I don’t. I am a grown woman who has the right to speak with whomever I want to. It is all about control and she is freaking out because her lies are coming to the surface. She is trying to hold on to whatever delusions she has about her past to help keep her as a victim. I will not play into this anymore. I called my email carrier and had her blocked from being able to email me anymore. She is blocked from being able to call or text me and my daughter and blocked from the house phone as well. They only way she can reach me now is by stopping by the house or sending something in the mail. It is so sad that I have to look over my shoulders again. Her behavior is just crazy and unstable. I wish I could just get the peace and quiet I deserve. That my family deserves. She claims to have found the love of her life. Then why doesn’t she focus on that and be happy? Why keep coming after me? I really need to know when there will be peace.
It has been a little over a year since I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I have filled my head with so much knowledge from being a part of and creating support groups, lots of research and asking a lot of questions. As most of you know, there is no rhyme or reason to this disease. They do not really know what causes it or how to treat it. Every case is unique in its own right and no two people deal with the disease or treatment in the same way. I have notice that during the winter and summer I am worse than normal. The extreme temperatures take a toll on me mentally and physically. So many parties, cook outs, family gatherings and I can’t even begin to know if I will be able to attend because of my condition. It really does make you live life day by day. Sometimes, hour by hour. The guilt becomes bad when you can’t make it somewhere because of your condition. I am still trying to work on that. I know that I need to take care of myself before I can even begin to take care of others. I wish I could put myself in a temperature controlled bubble so that I could still be who I used to be. The very outgoing person I once was. I am still learning but anyone who has any advice, I would love to hear it. Please tell me your secrets on how to handle all of this.